[Tension & Renewal - XV]
Conflict in intimate relationships is holy work because it is often the manifestation of an unaddressed inner conflict.
These conflicts are so difficult because we cling tightly to the identity we have built around those areas of sensitivity. We’ve built full blown arguments for why we're like this or that. Our careers and achievements and income aid our ego in bolstering the story we tell ourselves about who we are.
Our loved one challenges the facade by merely being our loved one and seeing behind the curtain.
Our loved one is doing us a holy service by merely existing and weathering our unfair and misplaced blame. We can face the confrontation as an opportunity for soul work, or we can shy away from this holy conflict and let our ego continue to be unchallenged, never accessing the more powerful truth of who we are.
Ceasing to blame our partner for this holy work is one of the first signs of renewal.
