Appraisal in the Light

[Doubt - IV]

Self-appraisal is not doubt. Sure, we can be too critical of ourselves, and that can lead to self-doubt, doubt in our call, and doubt of our beliefs, but honest self-appraisal is not doubt.

Self-appraisal comes in the light. It knocks, asks for permission to come in, and sits on the couch for a hard conversation. It’s often polite, never slanderous, and takes its time for the sake of understanding.

Doubt comes in the dark, prefers the shadows, and will slip in a cracked window if given the chance. It’s often rude, shaming, and dismissive. It’s not always bad, but it is always suspect.

Self-appraisal is necessary. Keep the lights on, take notes, and progress honestly and slowly. Don’t confuse it for doubt.

Doubt is necessary, too, but turn the lights on, invite a trusted friend for support, and don’t take it personal. (Also, invite faith to join the conversation.)

H/T Julia Cameron